Actually at that time we should have been in Tripoli zoo. As usual one of his friends made an attendance and took him out for business.
I thought; ‘he has to go’, then I thought; ‘I have to go too!’ I was upset to the level. It was another promise, which he did not keep. WHY can he not say: Sorry, I have other plans, why don’t you come later? NO – I obviously was the last person on earth he wanted to be with… (a normal overreaction when pregnant…)
Yet I was acting nicely, prepared some coffee and served some biscuits and some water. The great wife is happily married and looking forward to all what is there to come. Yet, not only the water for the coffee was “cooking”… Actually I could have pulled both to pieces. It was as if that guy could not do without my husband. If I was Salah, I would have not only told him that we have other plans but also not to come after midnight anymore. Yet in a country like that it WAS NONE of my business to develop ideas like that or to mix up in it… So I did not even have a trace to complain abt. Just once I mentioned: Surely you talked abt business, right? Have you had some new ideas abt what you want to do? Salah replied, that they were only gossiping… I said: you are joking, right? He said, no, really there was NO outcome… WOW If I had the nerve to say sth at that time, we would have had an eruption, and probably “eruption” would have been an understatement…
Another time when that guy showed up, again, we both wanted to sleep… It was abt 00:30. My husband was too polite and listened to all his gossip… After 5 minutes I switched off the lights in the garden. Actually I expected Salah to be furious… He was not, on the opposite, he was VERY happy and grateful. If I was in Salah’s position, I would have told the guy, look we wanted to sleep, my wife is pregnant and please cut it shortly… I would have added: My time actually is too precious to be wasted that way!
Unfortunately I was unable to talk abt this to other Libyan people. They would have never understood my point of view. We were in Libya, nobody is that impolite to tell others to disappear not even at that time of “day” (??? night is more likely). They could have used all against me. Even worse: Salah could have lost face and we would have been dishonoured. When in Libya, do as the Libyans do… What choice did I have? I was only able to discuss that with my mother, my spiritual sister (like my soul mate – spiritually meant) and of course with “my diary”… If I told my husband what I was thinking abt this whole situation, I would have gotten a nasty surprise…
When we had another “such incident” I only mentioned, that I would not complain abt that anymore and would keep my mouth shot and also be more understanding regarding these matters. That time I had said the wrong thing (again). He went sky high… He put himself more and more under pressure.
Instead of LOA (law of attraction), he was running after all opportunities which could be revenue. Yet my opinion is till today: we sometimes need a rest to take care of ourselves! Yet, listening to his wife? No, we were in Libya, women are after all the last in life to be important… They had to be quiet, do the chores (later take care of the kids) and that’s it! I was unable to ask more fm him. If he went on like that he might have either a burn-out or a heart-attack. I once said: pls take care of yourself, I do not want to be a widow! My baby needs a father, too. Well, if I knew what kind of a father he would be, I would have stayed in Switzerland!